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Gender and Hair Length

10/26/2016

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In preparation for our "Male and Female" youth rally coming up, I have been studying a lot about gender distinction and gender roles.  While considering the concept of long hair on women and short hair on men (a subject that can be touchy at times, but has long been an issue addressed in our Independent Baptist Churches), I curiously turned to some online discussion sites to see what is "common knowledge" concerning this subject.  Sources like Reddit, Quora, and Yahoo! Answers, are certainly no final authority on Biblical subjects...I just like to see what others are saying.

One question addressed was "How exactly does nature teach that long hair is a woman's glory and on a man it is a shame?" (in reference to 1 Corinthians 11).  The majority of the answers, not surprisingly, claimed that the Bible was wrong and even "silly."  They pointed out that a man's hair will continue to grow and therefore nature does not teach any such thing.

It often puzzles me how it is so commonly believed that people in Bible days were so stupid they couldn't observe nature.  After all, most of our knowledge today was built off of what they already knew.  We even borrow from ancient Latin words when we talk about scientific things.  Does anyone actually think that Paul didn't know when he wrote that text to the church at Corinth that a man is able to have long hair?

In fact, on one occasion, Paul himself took a vow in which he didn't cut his hair for a period of time, following the custom of the Nazarites.  God was the one who defined such Nazarites laws, and so it would be ridiculous for Paul to claim that there is no circumstance where a man would be accepted before God if he had long hair.

So then, what was Paul saying, and how exactly does "nature" teach us anything about long hair on a man?  I certainly don't claim to understand all the intricacies of 1 Corinthians 11, but here are some of my thoughts:

1.  "Nature" does not mean the plant and animal world.

Some claim, in an attempt to defend the Bible, that if you look at animals you can learn that men should have short hair.  I have a hard time seeing that, but the closest anyone has come to making sense out of that to me is by explaining that male animals tend to have their glory on their head in the form of horns, antlers, etc.  Whereas a female is covered by hair, the male exposes his power on his head.  I believe that is quite a stretch, especially since many of those horned or antlered, male animals also have long hair.

Every instance I can find in the Bible where the word "nature" is used, it isn't as our modern usage which denotes the plant and animal world, separate from "human nature."  The word simply refers to something that is typical, or commonly understood about something.  Something that is in it's natural state is simply something that is not changed by an unnatural or supernatural force.  So, if it is natural for men to have short hair and women longer hair, then the opposite should be the exception...and I would agree that it is.



2.  Short hair is masculine.

So, to say "nature teaches us" probably just means that it is "naturally understood" within us by looking around and observing others of our gender.  We just tend to feel within us that it is a shame for a man to have long hair but a glory for a woman.  As Wesley says, " For a man to have long hair, carefully adjusted, is such a mark of effeminacy as is a disgrace to him." 

Soldiers, farmers, factory workers, etc. have historically found short hair to be much more convenient, and so they have just embraced it.  Many military leaders throughout history have made it a rule that hair is kept under a certain length.  Since these tend to be male-dominated occupations, it should be expected that we would see more men with shorter hair than women.

Obviously, there have been times in our history where long hair was a sign of nobility or wealth, and shorter hair was more of a sign of slavery or "lower class."  But even during those times in history, the "noble" and rich men sometimes just wore long wigs over their shorter hair).  Many men can't grow long hair if they try, and many just go bald.  Something like 80 percent of men will experience baldness to some degree, and although women will often experience some hair loss as well, it isn't typically the same as men.  So, if a man is to look masculine and a woman is to look feminine it seems normal that a guy will embrace his shorter hair and keep it trimmed.

3.  Long hair is feminine. 


Long hair has always been a sign of good health,  youthfulness, and femininity to women.  Many men (I would say most) are attracted to it, and it is thought of as feminine for a woman to wear it long, and brush it, and care for it.  Let's just face it, long hair is a feminine thing!

In a world of "feminists" and "women's libbers," it is interesting to see the type of women who often embrace shorter hair (obviously, definitions on what is considered "short" will vary).  According to the passage mentioned above, a woman's covering of the head is a sign of her submission and being "under" the authority of someone else.  Interestingly, I have watched movies and heard stories of women shaving their hair off as a sign of their "liberation."  Women shaving their head is also common in the lesbian and bisexual communities.  And, whereas it has more recently become a sign of sympathy toward cancer patients, many cancer patients themselves will wear wigs.  It is increasingly popular for those with long hair to donate locks of it to companies that will make wigs for cancer patients.

Bottom line is, the Bible does have something to say about hair length on men and women.  Maybe it isn't much, and maybe it isn't our place to judge the motives and practices of others who wear their hair various lengths, but it is clear in the Bible that we should embrace the gender God has made us. 

Nature also teaches us about hair length by what we naturally know within us and by what we observe to be normal among our gender around us.  Our society may be blurring the genders more and more each year, and it may be getting harder to spot the obvious distinctions, but as Christians I believe we should do our part to show the world how men and women should behave in their God-given roles.  One way to consider doing this is by how we wear our hair.

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Our Philosophy Regarding Ministry to Children

10/6/2016

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 1.  We believe that children should be made welcome and a part of the church.
 
Some people feel like children are an unnecessary burden in the church.  After all, they don't contribute financially (In fact, they cost a lot of money).  They break and ruin things, and they can be very disruptive to services.  For these reasons and more, some do not encourage much investment in children's ministries, but we believe that children are not just bodies, they are souls!  If nothing else, we must introduce them to the Savior.  Surveys show that over 90% of Christians accepted Christ before 18 years of age; over 80% before age 14.    
 
Jesus, on Earth, certainly made them feel welcome.  In Mark 10:13-16 we read about little children (infants according to Luke 18) that were brought to Jesus.   The disciples initially rejected them, but Jesus rebuked the disciples and asked that the children be brought to Him.  The Bible says He picked them up and blessed them.  It is a shame that, in our day and age, we must avoid physical affection in general (with so many weirdos out there, I certainly wouldn't want just anyone picking up my children), but Jesus had no inhibitions about touching these children, and I'm sure he would equally love any dirty, smelly, snot-nosed child.  And so should we.   We know that God is concerned with the fatherless and the widows (Psalm 69:5), and He wants us to be as well (James 1:27). 
 
Children today could really benefit from some good role models in their lives.  It is said that 1 out of 3 children live in homes without their biological father.  It is the father's responsibility to make sure their children are raised in the admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4), but unfortunately many fathers are not around.  As a result, statistics show that many end up in jail or addicted to drugs and alcohol.  The church needs to ministry to children.  It is worth it!  Think of it as more of a "long-term" investment.  We not only need to "get them" we need to "keep them" as they will be our future church leaders.
                                                                               
 
2.  We believe that children are under the authority of their parents.
 
Whereas we want to do the best we can to minster to children, we do not believe it is our job to take the place of a child's parents if they have parents.  We believe we should keep parents thoroughly informed about every activity and every decision in which their child has been involved at church.  We want to earn the respect and trust of children, but we should make it clear to them that we are on the "parents' side."
 
Along with this, we are not "babysitters."  If at all possible, parents need to be involved, and It is not wrong to demand their involvement.  For example, we have a policy that children who younger than 3 years old or who are not potty trained must have a parent present.  This is not due to our lack of concern for the children or the parents.  In fact, our nursery will provide the care that is needed      for these children while their parents are in a service.  However,  the parent is the primary care provider, our ministry is to assist.
 
3.  We believe that children should be provided a spiritually and physically safe environment.
 
Church should be a trusted place, but unfortunately it is increasingly not!  Most parents (one would hope) would never knowingly put their children in dangerous situations.  Many are well aware of this problem and understandably are hesitant to send or leave their children in our care.  Others are ignorant of this, and trust churches, but they would be devastated if something happened. Many in our society have become desensitized to leaving their children in the care of others, yet churches are still held to a higher standard of expectations (and honestly, we should be). 
 
In many cases, should a major incident happen, we can count on legal action being taken.  Of course, this could shut down the church, or at least the children's ministry.  Besides this, any accusations (true or false) could damage the church's reputation.  Most importantly, we simply care about children and don't want to see them harmed in any way!
 
Obviously we don't want them harmed physically.  For this reason, we should do all we can to prevent general accidents and injuries.  We should also do all we can to prevent allergic reactions (particularly food allergies).   And, of course, we should do all we can to prevent kidnapping or abuse (sexual, verbal, etc.) by predators; including other children, outside predators, and even unexpected adult predators within.)
                                                                                                               
Another area in which we want to protect our children, however, is from spiritual harm.  We should do all we can to prevent the teaching of false doctrine.  This could come from someone who would intentionally teach something contrary to what our church teaches), but it could come from ignorance or from inadequate teaching by those who lack proper training or are simply lazy and apathetic. 
                                                                                               
4.  We believe that children do not "need" more entertainment.
 
Many assume children don't have anything to do.  We often hear "These kids need more activities."  The truth is, children will find entertainment (they turn boxes and empty water bottles into toys).  Unfortunately, however, they will often find the wrong type of entertainment on their own.  So, I like to say, "Kids don't need more things to do, they need better things to do."
               
For many churches today,  youth actually seem to be the central focus of the church.  It is very popular to have a youth-driven church.  Young people bring excitement and vitality to an otherwise boring service.  Many adults want to stay young, so they follow the trends of young people.  But children are supposed to be learning and being trained.  We should "put away childish things."  If children don't learn how to become adults, eventually, adults will act like children (which indeed is seen in our society today, and even in our churches).
 
Of course, some seem to feel children shouldn't be entertained at all, but that is not biblical.  Entertainment can be a wonderful thing, we just need to be sure our entertainment honors God (Colossians 3:17), that it does not cause others to stumble (1 Corinthians 8:7-9), and that it is shared with other believers (2 Corinthians 6:14).  Too much of the entertainment our young people are seeking is with unbelieving , worldly influences. 
 
Simply put, we cannot compete with the world's entertainment.  Some would try to do that thinking that children won't come otherwise.  Let's face it, adults enjoy the world's entertainment too!  So why not provide more? 
 
Well, the Bible clearly teaches that we should be separate from the world.  It says "Come out from among them and be ye separate (2 Corinthians 6:17).  God says "Be ye holy, for I am holy" (1 Peter 1:16) and "Love not the world..." (1 John 2:15).  If we look and act like the world, we are either disobeying God or we are trying to deceive the children.
 
Making a clear distinction up front about our stand against worldliness will ensure children aren't only coming for the wrong reasons.  Certainly , not every motive for attending church service is completely righteous ( even for adults), but the underlining reason we come to church should be to give God true worship and praise, and to receive from Him his Word.  The Word of God is powerful and effective.  It hasn't lost its power (Hebrews 4:12, Isaiah 55:8-11).

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